Wrong side of the road

When the kids are buckled into their carseats (against their will!) and shrieking at decibals that cause dogs to cry, something inside you snaps and so does your head! You take your eyes off the road, try to adjust the situation with a drink or blanky or anything to comfort them. In that mili-second you refocus to find you are now across the white line. Or taking your half of the street out of the middle. It happens so fast, most often we are never too far from safety but still we put ourselves and loved ones at risk.

You're sitting at work, exhausted from the late night up with a teether, having rushed through your morning routine with minimal time for politeness to your spouse,in fact somewhat irratated by their all about ME morning ritual. A male co-worker asks how you are doing. He takes the time to listen to you vent. It's nice to feel heard. And somewhere in your heart you know it's important to have a safe place to just relax with the day to day concerns- But you need to keep your eyes on the road. Stay safely on your side!

As a married women with many friends, I have often heard both sides of the same accident. When our gaurd is down, because we have a nature to share, we will tell male co-workers about our home life and frustrations.We also can feel uncomfortable telling the opposite sex to seek out other men or friends to reveal themselves and their trials (no matter how trivial)to for support.We as christian women need to honor our co-workers Families and protect them and ourselves from crossing lines of improper behavior.

Think about this, how would you feel if your spouse ran you down to other women? You would not appreciate the betrayal I can assure you. Not to mention the fact that when we act in such a way it causes a mental comparison of the things we recieve outside the covenant that we should be sharing inside of it to better know our selves and our partners.

This open society of liberated womanhood has created freedom to speak about everything from pms to sexuality in the hearing of men. But it bears with it a responsibility to uphold the decency of our disscussions with other women only. ( Unless you talk to a Dr. or a Minister or counselor)

Years ago Playboy Magazines used to be covered by Brown paper so as to not offend or corrupt. Topics that are of a personal nature are Brown paper topics ,only to be reviewed with a select and small circle. They expose something more private than skin, they expose the heart.

I have caught a few TV programs (night time soaps) and the formula to add stress to any relationship is the same. Some innocent disscussion between opposite sex friends confiding in each other on personal issues , brings the relationship into a prepatory phase for exiting a marriage. Self doubt, kind response, more frequent contacts and the match gets lit.

If you truelly want passion, understanding and genuine acceptance then take courage to find time, words and oppertunity to create more than the mundane in your own marraige. Make it worth your while to fight the calander and clock to include you mate and girlfriends. Yes, girlfriends! A few good girlfriends can help defuse a hostile situation and laugh or cry with understanding and prayerful accountability. A few good girlfriends will take the edge off your irritability. So when you do have time for hubby, it's more relaxed and productive in renewing your relationship.

Buckle up for safety and keep your eyes on the road. Your kids will thank you for it!!!